**Disclaimer: this is my opinion and my opinion only. This is how I feel regarding this particular topic. My hope is that people respect my opinion as I respect yours. Different opinions help keep conversations alive.
A few days ago someone said this to me. At first I didn’t think anything of it. I smiled and kept listening to the unsolicited advice. I say unsolicited because once some folks know you’re planning and wedding opinions come flying at you like there’s no tomorrow. Sometimes it feels like they aren’t even listening to the things you want.
I do not agree with the above comment. I started living the moment I could. That first day setting up my dorm room. Kissing my mom goodbye. That was sad but I feel those four years of learning about me and the person I want to be was my life. My roommates and I would go out. Make lots of friends. Some forgotten but most are the greatest friends I have.
I strongly feel L and I are the people we are together because our lives began before each other. We’ve both experienced things apart that make us better together. Because of this, I feel our marriage is just a new chapter in the book of my life ((I really hope I live a life other people would want to write about)).
With our nuptials in 20 short days I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of marriage for me. I hope L and I bring our two selfs together to create a great home and life. I love L for him and I hope we don’t lose our individual identities to our marriage. He’s really funny ((crude)), responsible, and always gets his to do list done. I on the other hand am a little more scatter brained. I live to the beat of my own DJ, and there is always a reason for a dance party. I’m probably one of the biggest procrastinators on the planet, but I still get everything done by the time I need to. I don’t test the waters, if I really want something I jump in head first to get it. Kind of like act now think later. L has helped calm this part of me down, but he also knows he can’t change it.
So to wrap things up, I hope if you take anything away from this post its wish happiness on your friends getting married. Live your life now. Hope that you’ll be conjoining two lives instead of waiting to start one.